Surving the Empty Nest- I Am More than a Mom

Friday, June 28, 2013

High School Reunions... oh the pressure

It is that time again.  I just received word that my class is holding another high school reunion.  This year I have been out of high school for 35 years.  Where has the time gone?

For those of you that want to do the math, I will save you the trouble.  I  just celebrated my 53th birthday.  As I see it, 
age is just a number.  I feel better when I own it.  

I have earned every one of those wrinkles and grey hairs.  
Well, they are grey until Madison works her magic!

Tell me ladies, do you have anxiety thinking about going back to a high school reunion?  Do you feel the need to creash diet or feel the pressure to wear the right dress?  Why do we do this to ourselves? 

I wonder if you think this pressure eazes over time.  As I think back to my ten year reunion, I remember wanting to make a good impression. Let's be honest, by that, I mean how I looked!  This was the first time I was going to see many of my friends since high school.  

I don't really think much changed when I went to my 25th reunion.  By then of course I wanted everyone to think I had really kept myself together. Have you ever hear of the song "You're so Vain?" Ouch!!!  Being introspective hurts!

Well, now 35 years later, I think I am finally getting it.  Don't get me wrong.  I like looking nice and dresing nice, but I do it for me and not for others.  I dont' wear makeup on a daily basis and that is ok!  In fact, I had to buy make up to wear to Dalton's wedding. I did want to look nice for the pictures and not washed out!  I haven't put on make up since the wedding.  

It has taken me a long time to get here.  It hasn't been easy.  There is so much pressure in society.  We have to do what makes us comfortable.  I only wish that as women we could feel comfortable just being us.

What do you think?  Leave me a comment and share your thoughts.  I would love to hear from you. I am off to work.  I wear many hats these days. Today, I am off to work for the North County Indians Baseball Club.  Go Indians!  It is fabulous... afterall...

I am More Than a Mother!

Until next time.




  1. You're such an inspiration & a beautiful person! Inside & outside!

    Love your site & loved seeing Marley's picture on here! ❤

    Keep up the awesome work!

  2. You are so right, society and the pressure to fit in and look good and all the "STUFF" can really burden us. I went to my 5 year class reunion and never went again. Most of the people there were comparing themselves and trying to "measure up". I became a Christian shortly after that and realized my standard of worth was based on the finished and perfect work of the cross and not on "man" and I am SO THANKFUL for that message :-) Thank you for sharing your thoughts and encouragement!

  3. Oh Cindy, I can so relate!!! Since we are the same age, right down to the month, date and year we were born, I find that as I age I don't give a crap what people think of me. lol Now with that said, I do care, but don't dress up or wear make up just to impress other's anymore. If I have the energy to wear make-up, I wear it to make myself feel better. As for reunions, and yes, I got my invite to my 35th reunion too, I just don't go. They weren't my type of people when I was a teen and they still aren't my type of people. I didn't look anything at school so I don't go back looking for it. lol The people that I would want to see, I keep in touch with anyway. So I just don't put that pressure on myself. Life for me doesn't include going back to being with people that made me uncomfortable to begin with. Perhaps had I went to a smaller high school I would feel differently. So my friend, go to impress yourself-anyone who looks at you will see a person who is comfortable in your skin and a confidant person!! Hugs!